Charlie Two Shirt Helps with the Hay

On that particular day, things did not go the way a particular little nine-year-old boy in West Kentucky wanted them to go. It was not a matter of weather. The weather, in fact, was quite pleasant, sunny and somewhat mild for July. So, no, it was not the weather. Nor was it a matter of not being allowed to play. It was, oddly enough, a matter of not being allowed to work.

Roy Morris was baling hay on that particular day and little Charlie Two Shirt wanted to help with the hay even though he was short and small. His dad introduced him to visitors at church as “the runt of the litter.” Compared to his two older brothers, the description seemed accurate enough; they were both tall, handsome and muscular. Charlie Two Shirt was strong for his size but neither of the other two words was ever used to describe him. An overbite exaggerated his large front teeth and his blond crew cut did nothing to hide the various scars on his head. He hated the annual school pictures and the teasing of his classmates when they called him “Bucky” or “Beaver.” But he loved to do farm work.

His dad and his older brother Paul were getting ready to go over and help Mister Roy with the hay. His dad was nearly fifty years old and though he was only five-eight, he was muscular and in amazing shape for a man his age. He could haul hay or cut tobacco all day long and still have plenty of strength and energy left for doing the milking. Charlie Two Shirt’s brother was already nearly six feet tall even though he was just thirteen years old. He and their father finished tying on their shoes while Charlie Two Shirt went down to his basement bedroom to get his gloves.

When he came back upstairs and walked outside, the pickup was gone. A trail of dust drifted above the long gravel driveway that led to a longer gravel road. He ran to his mother and asked, “Where are Dad and Paul?!”

“They’ve gone to help Mister Roy with the hay.”

“I wanted to go help, too!”

His mother looked down through her glasses, wiped the dishwater from her hands and patted his shoulder, “Well, I guess they didn’t know you wanted to go. You can help me with the green beans after I finish the dishes.”

Charlie Two Shirt walked back outside and stared at the gravel road and the last wisps of dust drifting into the fencerow in the curve a half-mile away. It was three miles to Roy Morris’ farm and he knew it was pointless to ask his mom to drive him over there. She was in the middle of washing dishes and after that she would be canning beans. He didn’t want to can beans; he wanted to haul hay.

So without another word and hoping his mother would stay in the kitchen in the back of the house, he walked very quietly across the driveway. He decided a shortcut through the pasture would save him at least a tenth of a mile. So, he ducked between the strands of barbed wire and headed over to Roy Morris’ place.

An hour later he was helping Mister Roy drive his old Popping Johnny across the field while Paul threw bales up and their dad stacked them on the wagon. “I can’t believe you walked three miles of gravel road to come help me haul hay,” Mister Roy chuckled, rubbing Charlie Two Shirt’s head with one hand. “Now you keep this tractor going straight between these two rows of bales.”

For a little while, Charlie Two Shirt forgot about his big bucked teeth and his scarred head and his runty little body. He gripped that old black steering wheel tightly with both hands and grinned from ear to ear.

H. Arnett
5/13/16

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A Mid-Week Blessing

May this good day bring you good
and may you bring good
into the moments you share with others.

May the moments you share with others
and they share with you
leave you both the better.

May this good morning find you focused
on things that are good and pleasant,
things worthy of praise,

and may such things as are pure and lovely
bring good into your heart
and give you cause to bid good to others.

May the work of your hands
on this good day
be blessed and fruitful,

bearing witness
of the Light that lives within you,
yielding proof of a changed nature.

May your words on this good day
be anointed with wisdom and grace
and may every situation that you face

find its ending in peace:
healing where healing is needed,
a gentle surrender to a better nature.

May all that rages around and within you
be calmed by that Greater Knowing,
a deeper humility that understands

that gentleness controls the stronger hand,
that the good of others matters more,
that love conquers all things,

and that good is in rich store
for those who bring good
to others.

H. Arnett
5/12/16

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Mother’s Day

I did not call my mom yesterday. Nor did I send her flowers or a card. Not even a phone call. To the best of my ability to recall, it is the second time in over fifty years that I did not wish her “Happy Mother’s Day.”

I did think of her, though. I thought about cookies and cakes and roast beef and mashed potatoes. I thought about homemade shirts and patched jeans. I thought about her operating the tractor, milking the cows and driving the two-ton farm truck to Russellville to pick up a load of concrete blocks.

I thought about picking blackberries, staking up pole beans and peeling apples. I thought about homemade rolls and fried pies. I thought about chili suppers for the church folk and birthday cakes for each of six children. I thought about aprons and sun bonnets, crochet and embroidery and biscuits at breakfast.

I also thought about spelling words and history facts and report cards that she’d sign. I thought about “Tuffy the Tug Boat,” “Duck and His Friends,” and almost endless stories about Brer Rabbit, Brer Fox and Brer Bear. I thought about her drawing pictures at church during Dad’s sermons to keep me still and quiet. I thought about the first set of paints that she bought me when I was fifteen and the incredibly bad picture of pheasants in the snow that she kept on the wall until she was taken from those walls.

I thought about all the ballgames she came to, all the letters she wrote and the very few long trips she made to come see me. I thought about the years she raised children, read to grand-children and great-grandchildren. I thought about the meals she prepared and shared with family and friends. I thought about the miles of singing gospel hymns while we traveled the dark backroads of West Kentucky, coming home from church or just going somewhere. Anywhere. Anywhere with Jesus we could safely go.

It doesn’t seem possible but it has been nearly two years since she went on with Jesus, across Jordan. She was not perfect, had her share of flaws and her own dark moments. But she was faithful, she was loving and she was devout. She enjoyed her share of blessings and endured her share of deprivations. Among the more saddening of those losses was the old age dementia that began in her mid-nineties and then worsened.

Her mind slipped away a few years before she passed, leaving a frail and failing body behind. Even though she did not recognize me the last three or four years, she still seemed to appreciate the very few visits I made. The last time I saw her alive, I sat on the bed beside her and she held my hand for a while. Her knuckles were large and swollen by decades of advancing arthritis, so I held on as gently as I could. We sat for several minutes, saying little or nothing.

And when the time came for leaving, she steadied herself as best she could and stood to hug me goodbye. I stroked a strand of white hair away from her eyes and kissed her forehead, looked one last time into those pale blue eyes and said “We love you, Mom.”

We still do.

H. Arnett
5/9/16

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The Next Town Over

It was some fifty-seven years ago, I believe, though it could have been fifty-eight. I doubt that it matters much whether I was four or five. I do know that it was before I started to school, which it means I could not have been more than five. My brother, Paul, would have been in the second or third grade and his class was taking a field trip. Somehow, I was invited to go along. I don’t know if they needed one more brat in the group to qualify for the group rate or if it was a matter of Paul asking if his little brother could tag along or what. Whatever it was, I was going, too, and that was pretty much all I needed to know.

This wasn’t a bunch of kids loading up into the big yellow bus or into a bunch of parents’ and other indentured drivers’ cars. No, sirree, Bob! We were riding the train!

It was the first of only two train rides in my life. I don’t mean “my life up to that time;” I mean my life up to this time. We loaded into the passenger car and rode about sixteen miles to Hopkinsville. I probably sat with my mouth gaping for the entire trip, staring out the window as we passed from Todd County to Christian County. Fence rows and brush lines zipped by along the tracks. Occasionally, we could see the highway. We rode through Pembroke on what seemed to me to be a straight line to Hoptown.

There, we unloaded and toured the Coca-Cola bottling plant. A mesmerizing trail of glass bottles clinked and clanked their way around the twists and turns of their guiding rail. Each bottle filled with bubbling brown liquid and caps were sealed onto each in a seemingly endless procession of carbonated beveraging. It didn’t seem possible that there could be that much Coke in the world!

There was, though, enough that each of us got a bottle at the end of the tour. Probably the old ten-ounce bottle. It wouldn’t have mattered to me if it was a five-ounce bottle; I’d ridden a train with my big brother, watched the magic of modern machinery and had my very own, don’t have to share it with anyone bottle of Coca-Cola. I could have been the King of Spain for all I cared, standing there in the spring sun on the train depot, taking slow sips and gawking at limestone and asphalt.

It wasn’t all that different from a group of community college students on their first trip to Kansas City, Greeley, Chicago or New York. They’re older and taller, and may work harder to conceal their wonder and amazement, but inside, they’ll be little kids just off their first train ride. Their worlds will have just gotten a little larger and the borders of their minds stretched a bit more.

And that is a good thing. There are not many minds in the world that couldn’t use a bit of that, even one as old as mine.

H. Arnett
5/6/16

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In Praise of Teaching

By rough estimation rather than actual calculation—which is how we tend to do many things, I suppose—there are a whole bunch of folks in this country who owe their current condition in the world to education. I would be one of that bunch, another semi-talented and reasonably intelligent person who would be—but for the grace of God and a whole passel of classes—eking out my living just below the poverty line. Or else doing skilled labor and grinding down my body to the point where it would barely last beyond retirement, if that long. I’m several chromosomes short of having a strong entrepreneurial gene and making it rich by virtue of a bright idea and lots of hard work never seemed to work out for me.

Now before anyone starts getting huffy—unless it’s already too late—I know that there are thousands of people out there who have made a good living for themselves and their families by doing skilled labor, cultivating their natural talents and having enough faith and grit to turn a good idea into a good profit. I know it and deeply respect it. What I’m saying is that my quality of life, standard of living and career satisfaction are very dependent upon education. And, in my case, with the exception of two forced years at a small private college, dependent upon public education.

That long stream began with Miss Susan Penick who taught first grade at Trenton (KY) Elementary School. It included Ms. Viola Moore, who smelled of lilac and roses and taught me how to use a Kleenex to soften and blend crayon drawings. Mrs. Sidney Dudley, who taught my sixth grade class and whose personal interest in me began to sow seeds of academic confidence. Mr. Tribble taught our eighth grade classes and coached basketball. Coach Roy Hina at Sturgis (KY) Junior High School not only tolerated me turning into a smart alec when I was thirteen; he also gave me his “Outstanding Algebra Student” award.

At Farmington High School, a series of teachers proved that coming from a tiny school in West Kentucky did not put us at an academic disadvantage when we went to college. Richard Adams taught biology, chemistry and how to play the guitar if you were interested. I was. Mr. Canter taught algebra, geometry and trig, although I didn’t take the trig class, a mistake that ended up changing my career a few years later. Jamie Potts taught Ag classes and ended up having the greatest impact on me personally. His patient persistence launched my speaking career, insisting that I enter another speaking contest as a sophomore when I barely missed winning the one I thought I wanted most.

Throughout my years of college, there were men and women who challenged and inspired me. Leonard Johnson at Freed-Hardeman moved me beyond my background and helped me to love all people. A chemistry teacher who dropped his grading cut by one point so he could give me an “A” after I flubbed a key question on the final, showing that compassion could temper academic rigor. Vernon Shown at Murray State was the reason I decided to focus on teacher education at Ohio State University. G. T. Lilly taught furniture-making and machine maintenance and operation, skills that I still use to this day in many rewarding ways. And many others who taught me many things.

Through all those years, I only remember two teachers who made a negative impression on me. One was an elementary teacher who paddled me for shrugging my shoulders when I didn’t know the answer to a question. I’m not sure what personal demons led her to that practice but she clearly did not like it when a student shrugged his shoulders. It took only two trips to the coatroom to break me of that habit. The other was an education professor who could barely be bothered with the trouble of preparing to teach a masters level course. He read from the textbook when he wasn’t amusing himself with stories that presumably related to something he’d just read from the textbook.

Two out of a hundred? Pretty good odds unless someone is shooting at you.

There is another group of teachers who have and continue to inspire me. People of dedication, determination, talent and passion. Women and men whose days seem to never end: preparing lessons, grading papers and upgrading their courses. Faculty members who care about their students and their students’ lives. Teachers who work not only to improve their courses but also to improve their schools, colleges and communities. Teachers who demand much of their students and even more of themselves. Teachers who persist in the pursuit of excellence in spite of changing culture, changing standards and changing administrations. Teachers who believe in teaching.

Those I taught with at Fulton City High School and Calloway County High School. Other professors at Missouri Western. The staff at Scott County Alternative School. Faculty members at Highland Community College. And now, more every day, the teachers at Cowley College.

Not only have all of these teachers had an enormous and wonderful impact on my life, they continue to profoundly impact the lives of hundreds and thousands of others. By direct measure and by ripple effect, their influence touches multitudes. This is true even of the teachers who have passed on by now.

There is in teaching, something of immortality. When done well and in great love, something divine.

H. Arnett
5/5/16

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In Praise of Gentleness

I learned long ago the sounds of anger:
raised voices, harsh words,
the rumbling sounds of a coming storm.
I felt it in the thundering shudder of angry skies,
the severe sizzle and crack of close lightning.

I learned long ago the after-shocks:
rigid faces, tense muscles, narrowed eyes
that slowly yielded to deeper hurts.
Bowed heads, hands against the face,
the long, choking sobs against the pillow.

I learned long ago the choices:
ancient anchored grudges,
slow simmering resentment,
a hollowing vengeance,
soothing forgiveness.

Those, too, come with costs:
an anger that eats its hosts,
a deepening bitterness,
intractable words and actions,
a healing of the self and others.

As a teenager I began to fathom
the strange strength of gentleness,
how words softly spoken
could still a tempest of pain and anger,
how a tender touch

could heal deep wounds and old scars,
could soon turn marring into molding
of better growth
and bring hope to a doubting heart,
something like light into darkness.

This thing—gentleness—it is an art
more admired than practiced, perhaps,
but in my older age
I see it calming a dark rage
that I could not understand nor explain.

It is a lovely thing, I think,
a doing that brings blessing
to both gift and giver,
a source of peace that guides
both what and how.

I hope that when my years are ended,
there will be some good remembering,
that others found my touch gentle,
my words calm,
and that love finally found its way

into what I do and say.

H. Arnett
5/4/16

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Beyond the Season of Dry

Four times in the season of dry,
my wife and I came to this place,
this structure of a waterfall.

The sweeping curve of rock lip
ran a broken line from ledge to ledge,
its edge thrust beyond the dark red dirt,

a small pool set some thirty feet below,
a dull showing of flow from some
earlier time before the drought.

This past Lord’s Day
we made our way from the car,
parked away from the muddy ruts

of earlier visitors in the grassy edge.
Mats of leaves littered the ground,
still held to small branches

that had lost their chances
in the torrent of hail
that tormented the trees

two days earlier.
We heard the sound of pounding water,
saw the silver of overflow

spreading across the flat floor of stone,
and spilling to the channel
seventy feet below where we stood.

At the base, a light mist drifted downstream,
another seam for the thundering rain
that came in pulsing sheets.

Visitors stood on the edges of bare-stone bluffs
while others scuffed their shoes
on the broken boulders beneath.

All had come to catch the view
of slanting sun sparkling silver water
in its cresting run beyond the glistening edge.

Rather than doubt the glory of a seasonal thing,
we should remember that the believing eye
can see beyond the season of dry
and that even a thing of blessing
can bring harm along with thriving.

H. Arnett
5/3/16

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Blackberry Winter

Saturday was sort of a chilly day for a mud run but we did one anyway. The heavy rains the day before assured that the whole course would be soft and sloggy and so I slogged away. It had been eight months—almost to the day—since my last run, which had left me with a rather impressive tear in the meniscus of my left knee. It had been four months—almost to the day—since my knee surgery. A two-mile run instead of a three-point-two-mile run seemed like a good way to check the healing.

As it turned out, the knee is not ready for running but it handled my slow slog-jog on soft ground rather better than I expected. Not to mention the climbing, crawling and scrambling. I was careful to make sure my right foot hit first whenever I dropped to the ground and I avoided jumping. At the end of the day, the knee was slightly sore but when I woke up Sunday morning, it felt no worse for the wear.

Another thing I noticed Sunday morning was a distinct chill in the air. It had been cool and cloudy Saturday morning with the temperature in the mid-fifties. The wind held off until after I’d finished my run. Sunday, the temperature was in the low fifties with a fifteen-mile-an-hour wind out of the north. Rough calculations put the wind chill at the forty degree mark. Forty degrees is not the anticipated temperature for May First in southern Kansas.

But it is not all that uncommon, either. I remembered noticing a row of blackberries blooming along Rock Road in Derby as we headed back from the mud run. I also remembered the older folks back home in West Kentucky talking about “Blackberry Winter” when I was growing up.

After several weeks of spring weather with temperatures in the sixties, seventies and even eighties, we’d have a spell of chilly days, overcast skies and cold wind. Since it seemed to always come just at that season when the banks and fence rows were flush with white blooms on sharp-thorned branches, they called that cold spell “Blackberry Winter.”

It seems to be pretty common in human endeavor that just about the time some good thing seems just about ready to start bearing fruit, there’ll be a Blackberry Winter of sorts. Some sort of opposition emerges, folks start throwing cold water on some good idea and all the people who’d promised to help sort of disappear for a while. Just when the blooms started filling out and the hope of good things to come seemed to flourish, the wind shifts around to the north and the sky starts filling up with cold, gray clouds. Seems like things are just ripe for giving up.

Well, folks, the blackberry bushes found out they could endure a cold spell. They found out that their roots were deep and they held onto their blooms and their soon promise. And come June, they’d have a full crop of big, black, ripe berries.

So, let your strong branches flex with the wind and don’t let a little cold spell send you packing up and heading off looking for warmer weather. Blackberry Winter will pass and the things that last will prevail. Just make sure that your fruit stays more important to you than your thorns.

H. Arnett
5/2/16

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Things That Matter

About an hour from now, a small group of colleagues at Cowley College will start a day of interviewing teaching applicants for one of several open positions. We’ll use our list of questions, take notes and observe a short teaching demonstration. Hopefully, by the end of the day, we’ll have someone who will do a great job of engaging students, work effectively with colleagues and co-workers and will deliberately focus on helping make Cowley College an even better place to study, work and experience life.

A key part of this process today will focus on how this prospective teacher uses the values of integrity, accountability, leadership and people to guide her or his behavior and decision-making. Those things are not just empty words arced around our logo; they are concepts that guide what we do and how we do it. They shape how we mow the grass, clean the floors, teach classes and run the College.

At least, that is the intent. And I’ve noticed over the years that we make greater progress when we focus on deliberate destinations. We often end up doing things we didn’t quite intend to do but we rarely accomplish anything of excellence without some degree of intent in that direction.

That’s why these values are important. I can coach instruction, I can arrange for workshops and I can gently but firmly focus attention on needed improvements. Our department chairpersons can provide mentoring on organizational processes and daily routines. Our faculty members can model effective skills and answer questions. We can train, teach, encourage and correct.

But we can’t cultivate integrity into a professional who doesn’t already have it. We can’t make someone keep their word and maintain harmony between ideals and actions. We can’t instill a desire to be an example to students and colleagues. We don’t have enough energy or hours in a day to monitor and manage the professional conduct of someone who rejects the notion of accountability. And if by the time you’re thirty or forty or fifty years old, you haven’t yet embraced the idea of treating other people in the way you’d like to be treated, you’re too much of a project for us.

When we all focus on the things that really matter, we all tend to do better and be better. And we make the places where we live and work better places to live and work. And people, accountability, integrity and leadership are “things” that matter. Everywhere.

H. Arnett
4/29/16

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Pep Talk

There’s a good chance today that some opportunity will come your way to think worse of someone, some invitation to say something snide or mean, some chance to degrade someone else or just offer some supposedly well-meaning criticism intended to help them improve the wretched condition of their soul and spirit.

Now if you take any or all of those opportunities, you might feel a bit of temporary pleasure, a little satisfaction in letting people know you aren’t afraid to speak your mind, even a sense that justice has been served and that everyone around you is the better for it: it’s about time all those other people realized the truth about that individual.

Maybe.

Another truth is that you probably won’t feel any better. You’ll feel the darkness inside you grow a little deeper, your resentment will push out a little bit more of the light that is trying to find a place inside you, there’ll be an increase of negative thoughts and feelings and your body will release a little more of the chemicals that attack your organs. That poison in your mind will become literal as your brain releases those substances that make you feel worse and age faster. You really won’t enjoy your day a bit more.

On the other hand, you could try a bit of empathy. You could speculate that that other person is dealing with at least as much emotional compost as you are. You could assume that person is, like you, trying to do the best they can with what they have to work with today. You could pray that God would bless that person today with grace and wisdom and give them favor in the eyes of others. You could pray that God would bless the work of their hands and guide them toward peace and blessing. You could pray that God would protect them from harm and bring good into their life.

You would find that your brain would begin to release that stuff it releases that helps you think better and makes you feel better. Cells all over your body would begin to work more efficiently and you’d have more energy. You’d feel more like smiling and smiling makes you and the people around you feel better. And if you continued this practice on a regular basis, you’d start to feel and look younger.

Simple fact is, loving people leads to all kinds of good stuff—for you and for others.

Thanks for listening in while I’ve been talking to myself this morning. If you heard something that might help you, well, you’re welcome!!

H. Arnett
4/28/16

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