In Memory of Juanita Harrison

It is always a bit dangerous trying to describe someone that other people know far better than do you. Yet, there are times when we feel it is necessary to take that risk. This is for me such a time. Rather than making assertion to claims of truth, I will say that these are my memories, recollections and impressions.

I cannot remember when I first met Jack and Juanita Harrison but I know that it was when I was a small child. They were friends of my parents long before my memory, and as it turns out, long before my existence. But I do remember, quite well, when it was that I came to form my own relationship with them. That would be the summer of 1968, when my family moved to Browns Grove, Kentucky.

Like my parents, Jack and Juanita had six children, two boys and four girls, the mirror opposite of our family with its four boys and two girls. Unlike my parents, Jack and Juanita managed to raise theirs to be a close-knit family, where love seemed to pretty clearly trump approval. It was not, by any means, that the Harrison’s were more prone to condone inappropriate, unethical or unseemly behavior. It was, by every means, that love seemed less conditional. And it seemed quite clear to me in my teenage years, that they simply enjoyed being a family. And in a way that never seemed clear to me at all in my family, Jack and Juanita clearly delighted in their children and grandchildren. That impressed me as rich and wonderful and incredibly blessed and blessing. But what was miraculous in my adolescent eyes was that the Harrison children clearly delighted in their parents and cheerfully adopted their best traits.

“Cheerful adoption” seems perfectly appropriate in regard to Juanita Harrison; she was one of the most consistently cheerful people I’ve ever known. I have no doubt that she had her moments and moods but in the many hours that I was around her, she was persistently upbeat. Her eyes actually did twinkle; it wasn’t just a figure of speech. Her laugh was comforting, positive and sincere. Her hugs were real, warm, genuine. She was averse to flattery, neither offering nor accepting it. She worked hard, whether at the furniture store or in her home and she both knew and demonstrated the meaning of “Southern hospitality.”

As both family friend and “hired hand” for milking the cows, I was around the family a lot, especially after my parents and youngest brother moved away during my sophomore year. I occasionally spent the night at “Harrison Hill,” even though I lived just a couple miles away. I spent so much time there and grew so close to the family, that I began to think of Miss Juanita as more of my mother than as just someone I knew. I tried calling her “Mom” but I felt like an intruder. “Miss Juanita” seemed too formal and so I settled on “Mama ‘Nita.”

She was very much like a mother, always listening and offering advice from time to time. And, I came to know that in spite of her natural cheerfulness, if you pushed her too far, you would find an honesty of expression that left no doubt as to her position on the matter. But she never seemed to carry her anger from one day to the next. (Family may differ on this point and I will defer to them, if that is the case.)

What she did carry, constantly, was a decency and dignity that impresses me even to this day. She never seemed aloof but always seemed proper. She never seemed distant but had a keen sense of propriety. She loved her family and her friends. During the years of my adolescence and early adulthood, she exerted a firm but gentle influence on me.

Outliving Jack by twenty years or so, she continued to manifest the humor and grace that I remembered. Though my contact with her over the years diminished by reason of distance and my own lacks and deficiencies, I never doubted her love, never forgot her example. Though it has been thirty years since I lived at Browns Grove, I still hold the treasure of my early acquaintance with Juanita Harrison.

As teacher and minister, pastor and professor, carpenter and education administrator, I have known thousands of people over the years. I’ve never known anyone more decent or more dignified, more genuine or more loving. Her life and example have touched and will continue to touch many generations through her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

My world seems a bit smaller with her passing but my life will always be blessed by having known and loved Mama ‘Nita.

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Horse Sense

Though I am certainly no expert, I know a little bit about what horses like to eat. The ones we have had prefer bluegrass to brome and brome over fescue. They will nip their preferred forage down to the dirt and leave the other stuff belly high. When it comes to hay, they prefer grass blades over seeds and stems and they prefer alfalfa over everything else, so far as I can tell. Well, everything else except sweet feed. On second thought, we did have one horse that left sweet feed to go eat alfalfa hay. So, I know that horses really like alfalfa.

What I don’t know is why any horse would love mulberry bark. My lack of explanation, however, does not refute the observation.

In addition to other joys this week, I cut down two of the dead pine trees that form the fence line on the west side of our little paddock. Being as how I already had the chain saw out, I decided to go ahead and trim off the lower branches on the two maples and the mulberry tree growing in the pasture. Some of those branches were over twenty feet long. So, I trimmed the smaller branches off of the big branches and then sawed everything into sections that a scrawny old geezer like me could drag off without too much trouble.

While I was stacking the old dead pine branches onto the burn pile, I noticed our gelding nosing around the mulberry branches. As I watched for several seconds, I saw Journey start to nibble on the cut end of the branch. Without a minute or two, he had stripped off two feet of bark. Not being sure whether or not it was good for a Rocky Mountain Horse to ingest a bunch of fresh mulberry bark, I shooed him away.

I finished dragging, toting and tossing branches onto the big pile for a New Year’s bonfire. Then, I stopped by the shed and fed Journey some sweet feed and alfalfa.

The next day, I looked over at the big brush pile and was surprised to see several gleaming white sections among the dull gray mat of rough-textured grays. That horse had nosed around in that big pile and eaten the bark off of those mulberry branches, leaving them slick and shiny.

I have no idea why a horse would want to gorge himself on mulberry bark. Maybe it’s a vitamin or mineral deficiency, maybe it’s the flavor, maybe it was just something to do on a long night. I do know, though, that horses do share some similarities with humans. One of those common traits is that just because they love eating or doing some particular thing is no proof at all that it’s good for them.

H. Arnett
12/20/13

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Somber Beauty

The slightest trace of pink
colored the curls of clouds
low over the ridge
just past the creek;
the least bit of light
leaking from a hidden rising.

Now, a descending sky
covers all the edges
until nothing is left
but a smooth, shiftless gray
with no hint of sun or shadow.

A damp stillness fills the air,
broken only by the sound of semi’s
coming over the rise west of Grant’s Repair.

Long blond seams of dormant grass
flinch in the wind
of the big trucks’ passing,
swing back into standing.

Bare branches sketch the horizon,
blend into the hazy blackness
of hills two miles away.

Even in the somberness
of a winter morning,
there is a calm beauty
in the forming of this new day,
a promise of grace
from its Maker.

H. Arnett
12/19/13

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Happy Hump Day

With apologies in advance to the good folk of Minnesota, North Dakota and such: over the past month or more, it seems that we’ve only had two or three days above freezing. This is a bit unusual for us at this time of year. For January, not so much, but to start a longer spell of cold weather in November and sustain that into mid-December is a different matter.

That’s a big part of why I’ve been looking forward to today with more than average enthusiasm. After weeks of sub-freezing weather, our forecast is for sunny skies and a high near sixty degrees! Whoo-hoooo, baby!

Never mind that tomorrow’s forecast calls for rain and Friday’s high will be back below freezing. Never mind the chances of freezing rain tomorrow night and more winter stuff this weekend. Today is going to be just lovely.

There is, of course, an even better forecast somewhere out in the future. There is coming a day when all of our winters will have ended. There is coming a day when pain and sickness, death and disease will be done with. There is coming a day when loss and sadness, heartache and separation will be over. There is coming a day when all will be light and peace, joy and grace.

Until then, I will try to accept sun and rain, storm and stillness, all as coming in the day the Lord has made. I will try to rejoice and be glad in each of them. I will treasure each warm moment and give thanks in all things. And I will know in all of those times, that even a camel on Hump Day knows nothing of the joy that awaits those who love the Name of the Lord.

H. Arnett
12/18/13

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A More Accurate Account

Paul and I grew up on a two-hundred-and-sixty-five acre dairy and row crop farm in southwestern Kentucky. Okay, actually, we had other siblings who grew up there as well. Well, more accurately, they lived there for a while, some for nearly as long as we did. The oldest two lived there during their high school days and our younger older sister did that, plus her years of what would now be called middle school. Our youngest brother was born there and we moved before he was old enough to work in the dairy barn.

Since Paul and I were the only young ‘uns who didn’t leave for college until after we’d all moved away, we tend to think of ourselves as the only ones that really grew up on that farm in Todd County.

Of course, Patsy lived there for nearly as many years as we did and she may very well consider that’s where she grew up. I have no memories of living on the farm near Russellville; I was only three when the family moved. Paul (three-and-a-half years older than me) has more memories of Logan County than I do but not as many as the others. Since I stayed on the farm and worked for the family that bought it until I’d finished eighth grade, I actually lived there a few months longer than anyone else in the clan. This is a fact that I’d never thought about until just now. I’m not sure what bragging rights this gives me but I’m sure going to give that some careful thought.

The thing is, the claims of our heritage are highly individualized. They are also often fantasized to some degree. Memories get altered over the years. The barns get bigger, the hay bales heavier and the days more demanding. Impressions formed in childhood may become too entrenched for objective adult examination to alter them. An afternoon in the field may turn into a week of work. A mile hike through the creek may turn into a mini-marathon through a swamp that didn’t even exist.

That brings up an advantage that Paul and I have through our shared years on the farm; we can check our stories against each other. Then, each of us has the option of altering in favor of a more accurate account or of mutual collusion that turns it into an even better story. Unless we overlooked a witness or two, who’s to say we didn’t do what we just told you we did?! In terms of personal history, one should not underestimate the value of imagination and creativity.

Such liberty, however, must never apply to our witness of our beliefs and our attempts to live faithful to them. Testimonies that declare nothing but the glorious victories are not only suspect; they do damage to both the speakers and the listeners. Anyone whose witness does not include admission of dark days and long nights, wrestling with demons and sometimes losing, is a person with an incomplete testimony. It is not by “victory” alone that we overcome; it is by an absolute, bone-stubborn refusal to surrender our faith. No matter how deep and dismal the swamps. “I believe” is the victory.

H. Arnett
12/16/13

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A Difficult Phrasing

It is so important to say some things
in just the perfect way
and yet perfection is so rarely within our reach.

We teach, we train, we practice
over and over again
and yet so often, see our landings
fall a bit short of the mark.

We live in a world of darkness and light;
day and night sometimes bleed into one another
and we hope for the other,
seeking some sort of comfort.

On the day after
my daughter’s second son was born,
my second son’s wife miscarried

and now we all carry this mingling
of joy and sorrow,
sadness and gladness.

On this bright day,
a rousing sun shines
across the snow,
striking shadows from the cedars
and an intense reflection
from the frozen burnish of ice on the road.

We walk in the midst
of atrocity and generosity,
kindness and cruelty,
heartache and celebration.

We may choose our focus,
train our hearts for gratitude,
and return good for rudeness,
but all of this is life,
life amidst blinding light and bruising cold.

H. Arnett
12/12/13

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Winter Blessing

To be safe in spite
of a sheath of ice
that covers everything visible
for hundreds of miles,

To be warm in spite
of a cold-rolled slab of wind
that turns temperatures
into weapons,

To be sheltered in spite
of a bitter front
that shunts blood
from extremity to core,

To see once more
the least slice of a winter moon
barely above the western ridge,
slipping into the trees,

To settle in
beneath thick, soft covers
while the wind rattles
the windows,

To feel moved
to share something
with those who have
even less:

This is to be blessed.

H. Arnett
12/10/13

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Storm Path

I suppose that the age at which we quit worrying about our children is rather advanced; I know that I’m nowhere near it right now. Of course, I’m still rather young, so it might be that my prediction is off a bit. My suspicion is that it continues right on up until shortly before death, or maybe just after that. It’s not likely that I’ll let anyone know what I find out on that point but I am not worried about that. The world’s managed to move along for quite some time with a minimum of communication post mortem.

My current fretting regards the weather, making it even more futile than the usual parental worrying. Five of my six adult children live in the predicted path of freezing rain being sifted out by this huge winter storm that is affecting nearly all of the continental United States. Forecasts call for up to three-quarters of an inch of ice for the sections of Arkansas and Kentucky in which their families live. I’m hoping that they catch the thinner side of the prediction; I’m praying that they stay safe and warm throughout whatever comes.

It’s been decades since they were small enough and I was close enough to pick them up and move them out of harm’s way. This isn’t something that a stern warning or loving embrace can solve, settle or soothe. I’ve been through ice storms. Even though they don’t even hint of the totality of destruction of a tornado, for total scope and short-term effect, they are massive. An ice storm can paralyze an entire region, knocking out power and shutting down transportation. It can break power lines, turn roads into death zones and turn woodlands into war zones as branches and entire trees are toppled.

Our birches here near the house still carry the heavy scars of our last major ice storm from six years ago. I remember that for hours on the morning after, there wasn’t a span of five minutes that we didn’t hear heavy branches crashing to the ground. We were fortunate; we had power restored within five days. Some rural places nearby were without electricity for six weeks.

But even they survived and that is what I will focus on when the demons of imagination start taking more liberty than is warranted. I will remind myself that my children are no less resourceful, no less resilient, no less capable than I am. I will remind myself that for every situation wherein mercy seems lacking, grace is sufficient. And I will resist this nagging urge to call and check on them two hours before daylight. I’m pretty sure they will all appreciate that!

H. Arnett
12/6/13

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Heading Home

As I drive south from Highland,
I see more than a hint
of coming cold
in the long flat of gray
spreading all the way east to Troy.

But the least strokes of a setting sun
have begun to edge the slight curls of long clouds
stretching low from the west;
light pinks alternate with fingers of slate,
forming a grate over the hills toward Hiawatha.

The last of light filters from that scuttled sky
and soon dies in the settling darkness.

The image of that brief beauty
will not keep me warm tonight
but it is good to have its comforting memory
as I settle underneath soft covers,
feel the touch of the woman I love,
and remember that God’s good gifts
last beyond the changing of seasons.

H. Arnett
12/4/13

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Traveling for Thanksgiving

Nine miles of northeastern Kansas,
nearly three hundred miles of Missouri,
a hundred-and-seventy-five of Illinois
and fifty miles of the western tip of Kentucky.

Sweet potatoes and hash brown casserole,
broccoli casserole and a super-grain dish
whose name I can’t remember,
hand-carved turkey and fruit salad.

Four sons and one daughter,
four daughters-in-law,
twelve grandkids
and two more in the near future.

Kids in the yard,
a marshmallow gun,
at least thirteen of us
playing touch football.

Pictures and letters and grade reports
from thirty years ago,
keepsakes and books
and one pair of handmade lamps

passed out among the kids.

Fifty miles of Kentucky
with thirty minutes for the last four miles
before the river,
a hundred-and-seventy-five miles of Illinois
with ten minutes for the last two miles
before the river,
nearly three hundred miles of Missouri
and the last mile finished in Kansas
just a few minutes before eleven at night.

Worth every mile and every minute.

H. Arnett
12/3/13

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